Has there ever been a time in your life when you experienced something you perceived as bad? Have you considered that perhaps what you perceived as bad could actually be a good thing?
What if we were to look at things from the perspective of people doing things for us instead of to us, and things happening for us instead of to us? How would that change the experience?
I have heard it said in different ways that everything is just the way it needs to be, that everything happens for a reason and that nothing, absolutely nothing happens by mistake. I can say that I have experienced some things that I felt were painful and not fair, and looking back now I can see that I am who I am today and have come to be where I am because of those experiences.
Although some of the experiences have been hard to understand and even embrace as a good thing, I can say today that I am glad the way things turned out because it forced me to choose a path that perhaps without those experiences I would not be living the life I am today.
An experienced I had was ending the marriage to my children’s dad. At the time this took place, my children were eight, seven, and five years old. It was a painful and fearful time for my children and for me. The fear of being a single mother and the impact it would have on my children was huge, yet I knew that there was a reason for this and that somehow everything would turn out all right. Of course this feeling was very faint and deep within me, yet I was able to hear it and trust it even though everything on the outside said otherwise.
Today my children are 22, 20, and 19 years old. I can’t say that it was easy raising my children alone, but I can say that there has been much growth, healing, and evolution for both my children and myself. I have an amazing, loving, and healthy relationship with my husband of five years, my children are amazing beings, and we have healthy and loving relationships.
Today I live a life beyond my wildest dreams. Today when life happens I have the choice of embracing whatever the situation is and knowing that it comes with a gift for me to open. Today life happens for me, not to me.